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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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A new year, a new you..

Posted on January 22, 2011 at 6:35 PM Comments comments (0)
Well, it's a new year. But some of the things that we dealt with in 2010 are still the same. Sure, we read ads that says, "New year, New you" sounds good, doesn't it? Truth of the matter is, we are still the same people that we were last year.  Hopefully, our outlook has changed. We've learned some lessons. We've grown wiser. We've experienced healing in some areas. And we are better today than we were yesterday.
Is that possible? Can we really get better? Absolutely we can. We're all a work in process. Many of us don't like the process. But there is nothing that we can do about process but go through it.
Personally, I did not wait until 2011 to decide the things I wanted to change. There were times in 2010 when frustration set in which made me think, "What do I need to do to change this?".
When I refused to blame anyone or anything for where I was the answers to this question came.
In other words, I knew what changes I needed to make way before 2011. How do you know what needs to be changed? Look at the areas where you are most dissatisfied. This could be in your relationships, finances, family, faith, career or health.
For instance, I started my journalism career in 2001. However, September 2010 I realized that there was a shifting taking place in my life that involved a new career. I did not fight the idea of a career change.
I was ready for change. Because I was willing to make the transition I am walking towards a new path.
Anytime there is a shifting taking place in your life, that means change is on the horizon. Though change is a process that requires patience, perseverance and an ability to stand the wait can be challenging. No, the wait can be down right hard. But once you come to realize that there is a time and season for everything, it won't be as hard. If you are in transition, don't fight it. And don't abort the process.
This is what produces not only a new you, but a more focused and purpose driven you.