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Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma
Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.
Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems.
1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.
2. Witnessing a mother being abused.
3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.
4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.
5. A family member who is in prison.
6. Parental separation or divorce.
7. Physical or emotional neglect.
8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.
9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.
10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.
11. Involvement with the foster care system.
12. Losing a family member due to deportation.
13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.
14.Living in a war zone.
15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.
If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs.
The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.
The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.
While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse.
It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin.
Wishing you health and wellness,
Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International
NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor
School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution
Email: [email protected]
|Posted on January 8, 2015 at 11:11 AM||comments (102)|
This morning I read a news story concerning a 15 yr old girl who fatally shot her 16 yr old brother. It appears that the parents left the 16 yr old brother in charge of his female siblings ages 15, 11 and 3 while they go to work. The father was a truck driver and the mother went for the ride.
This is a traumatic situation. I read where the 15 yr old girl had been locked in a room with just a blanket and a bucket to use the bathroom. It was also said that due to "misbehaving" she has been locked up in the room for 20 days at a time. This is child abuse and neglect.
Additionally, the girls uncle was convicted of molesting her in 2010 and in 2011 the mother discovered that the siblings were having sex in 2011. The 15 yr old also tried to commit suicide in the past but this was never reported to the police or emergency management services. Child sexual abuse at the hands of a family member or trusted family friend is common. Sadly children suffer in silence for years.
Fast forward. Another family shattered by silence. Another life gone too soon through death.
This young girl has been wounded, traumatized and have been suffering from the scars of incest and molestation in silence for quite sometime. Unfortunately, it's possible that both girls will be traumatized again. The prosecutor is trying to decide whether or not they will be charged as adults.
Will you join me in prayer? Let's pray for abused children everywhere, parents who have experienced childhood abuse, families grieving the lost of a child, individuals who take away the innocence of a child through sexual abuse, molestation, rape or incest. Children who are broken during childhood and left with unresolved and unhealed wounds often experience challenges as adults. Let's pray for healing and restoration of adult survivors. None of us are broken beyond repair.
|Posted on May 31, 2013 at 11:08 PM||comments (0)|
In 2004 while sitting in class at the New York Theological Seminary God began to speak to me. One might refer to it as having a God moment or hearing a Word from the Lord. Either way, there was no doubt in my mind that I had just had an encounter with a very real God.
I wasn't dreaming and there was no reason for me to think it was my imagination. God really does speak but when He does it's up to us to hear His voice.
My professor was lecturing and as she was speaking I heard a still small voice. She was sitting behind the desk and it was right in front of me. As she lectured I maintained eye to eye contact with her. But the moment God began to speak I picked up my pen and begin to write as fast as I could. I didn't want to miss anything God had to say.
In a gentle voice this is what the Spirit of God said, "Don't you dare sell another copy of your book until you re-write it. I want you to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. What good is it that you say that you are totally healed but have not shared what scarred you in the first place? If you don't re-write your book you are doing a disservice to my people".
With fear and trembling I put my pen down. For a moment I just sat there. God definitely had my attention. At that moment I resolved not to sell another copy of my book. A friend of mine who I have known for a few years was sitting right next to me. I wanted to tell her what had just happened but I was too embarrassed. I thought that she would probably think that I was crazy so I kept it to myself. But as an act of obedience I did as I was told. I re-wrote my book, "Still Scarred, Totally Healed: Opening Your Heart and Mind to God's Healing of Past Hurts".
Working on this book has helped me in both practical and spiritual ways. Revisiting the miracles God has done and is doing even now is awesome. Whenever you think about your encounters with a true and living God your faith increases because He is so faithful. It's nothing that we have done ourselves, but it's by the grace of God that we are still here today.
I had many challenges while working on this book. But I believe that there is a word of healing for you. Revisiting this book has not been about me. God loves you so much and wants to see you come into wholeness that He told me if I didn't re-write it I would be doing a disservice to you.
God is getting ready to do an awesome work in your life. It's not about me, but it's about your destiny. We serve a mighty big God who is able to do exceedingly more than you could ever think. It's your time and your season to be blessed in every area of your life.
We're living in a time and place where many people are stuck and don't know why. They don't understand that even after you are saved, there's still some work that the Holy Spirit needs to do in our inner man. Many don't understand why they do the things that Christians should do and yet they can't seem to touch God. They know He's there yet, they are unable to feel His presence in the atmosphere.
I submit to you today that perhaps there is a hole in your soul that hasn't healed. Do you have invisible scars haunting you from your past? Are they infected? Do they bleed into your relationships. Are you pretending that something didn't happen, yet it really did? Does your life mirror brokenness?
If you've been wounded by childhood sexual, verbal, mental and psychological abuse rape, incest or domestic violence and have not dealt with the reality of your painful past God is looking for you.
If you feel that you are stuck there is a reason why. Most times we don't look at our past when we're trying to find out who we are or what's underneath our pain. But doing so can make a difference in our lives. If you're hurting there is healing for everywhere you hurt.
Until next time,
Patrina M Wright