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Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma
Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.
Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems.
1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.
2. Witnessing a mother being abused.
3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.
4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.
5. A family member who is in prison.
6. Parental separation or divorce.
7. Physical or emotional neglect.
8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.
9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.
10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.
11. Involvement with the foster care system.
12. Losing a family member due to deportation.
13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.
14.Living in a war zone.
15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.
If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs.
The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.
The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.
While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse.
It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin.
Wishing you health and wellness,
Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International
NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor
School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution
Email: [email protected]
|Posted on April 4, 2016 at 1:31 PM||comments (0)|
When the eyes of our understanding are being opened something happens. The wisdom, revelation and insight I received helped me break free from pain of my past. Whenever you experience a life-changing breakthrough you ask yourself two questions.
1.Why didn't anybody tell me this?
2. Who else needs this truth?
Are you a survivor? You're not alone. There are over 39 Million men and women survivors of child sexual abuse in America today. Many of us have suffered in silence for years. Many Christians sit in service after service feeling stuck and don't know why.
In 2004 I wrote the book Still Scarred, Totally Healed: Opening Your Heart and Mind to God's Healing of Past Hurts to deliver hope, help and healing to the hearts of survivors of sexual abuse.
You don't have to perish for a lack of knowledge. Many people are hard on themselves due to a lack of truth. If you are a believer who have been sexually violated GOD loves you. He wants to heal every broken place. Your STORY matters to HIM.
If you're reading this post and don't have a relationship with the Lord your past hurts doesn't have to prevent you from having a great future. God has a good plan for your life. He hates evil. He LOVES you and will right the wrongs. Countless individuals and families have been devastated by sexual abuse, incest, rape, human trafficking. For many the abuse started during childhood years. Sexual abuse leaves clues.
Ask yourself the following questions.
Have you ever felt like a hypocrite?
Do you think of yourself as a phony or a failure?
Do you find yourself doing things Christians should do but can't seem to get it right?
Are there people around you that seem to have a rich, satisfying and vibrant relationship with Christ but you can't seem to touch him or feel anything at all?
Have you forced yourself to forget painful things?
Have you pretended something didn't happen when it did?
Do you believe if no one else knew it didn't matter?
What do you see when when you look into the mirror?
Are you haunted by memories from the past?
Unhealed memories of childhood sexual, verbal, mental and psychological abuse, rape, incest or domestic violence leaves invisible painful scars. Open wounds can be infected.
If you scratch an unhealed wound it may bleeding. If you or someone you know have suffered in silence the wounding in your soul can be healed. Unprocessed date hidden in the file cabinet of your mind can be worked through and a new chapter can begin.
The GOOD NEWS is new programming of the mind produces a new perspective. A changed mind leads to changed actions and a changed life. If you have been wounded during your early childhood years but have not dealt with the reality of your past there is a road to recovery. You don't have to journey alone. You can LIVE again, LAUGH again, LOVE again and DREAM again.
Would you like to speak with a prayer minister or pastoral counselor? Please send an email to [email protected]
Wishing you holistic prosperity!
Patrina M Torres
|Posted on April 2, 2016 at 2:20 PM||comments (0)|
One Saturday in 2004 while sitting in class at the New York Theological Seminary I heard a voice. One may refer to it as having had a “GOD” moment or hearing a Word from the Lord.
Either way, there was no doubt in my mind that I was having an encounter with a very real God. I wasn't dreaming and there was no reason for me to think that it was my imagination. God really does speak but when he does it's up to us to recognize His voice.
My professor was sitting right in front of me lecturing. I maintained eye contact with her as she spoke, but I realized that I was hearing a still small voice. The moment God begin to speak I picked up my pen I begin to write as fast as I could because I didn't want to miss anything He had to say. In a gentle voice this is what the Spirit of God said to me, “Don't you dare sell another copy of your book until you re-write it. I want you to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. What good is it that you are telling My people you are totally healed but you have not shared what scarred you in the first place? If you don't go back and re-write your book you are doing a disservice to My people".
With fear and trembling I put my pen down. For a moment I just sat there. A friend whom I've known for a few years was sitting next to me. I wanted to tell her what had just happened and wondered if she also heard what I just heard. But I was too embarrassed to say anything.
I thought that she would probably think that I was crazy so I kept it to myself. God definitely had my attention and at that moment I resolved not to sell another copy of my book, “Still Scarred, Totally Healed: Opening Your Heart and Mind to God's Healing of Past Hurts”.
As an act of obedience I wrote a second edition of the book. Working on the manuscript helped me in both practical and spiritual ways. Revisiting the miracles God performed and continues to do in our midst was awesome. Whenever you think about personal encounters with a true and living God your faith increases. I experienced many challenges, opposition and adversities while working on the book but I overcame them all. There is a word of healing and restoration for broken hearts in the book.
God loves you so much that he told me if I didn't re-write it I would be doing a disservice to you. I just believe he's going to do a healing work in your life. It's not about me. It's about your destiny. We serve a mighty big God who is able to do exceedingly more than you could ever think.
It's your time and your season to be healed, blessed, restored, liberated, empowered, comforted, renewed, strengthened, encouraged and made whole in every area of your life.
Wishing you good health, wellness and success!
Patrina M Wright
|Posted on April 2, 2016 at 2:15 PM||comments (108)|
Welcome! Thank you for visiting“30 Days of Healing” blog. Before we start our journey wanted to take an opportunity to introduce myself. My name is Patrina M Wright, I serve as the Executive Director of Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc. a faith-based non-profit community-based organization birthed out of my passion to empower women to break the cycle of abuse, poverty and homelessness through education, employment, entrepreneurship, family support and mentoring.
A lover of Jesus and true worshiper I also am an adult survivor of child sexual abuse and attempted campus rape which led to destructive relationships. Today, however I stand as MORE than a survivor.
I am an journalist, author, conference speaker, TV host, certified temperament counselor, licensed minister of pastoral counseling and abuse prevention trainer.
I have birthed books out of personal pain, turned my pain into testimonies and discovered my purpose.
These tools Still Scarred, Totally Healed: Opening Your Heart and Mind to God's Healing of Past Hurts and The Exodus Breaking Cycles and Changing Lives: Repositioning Your Soul to Thrive After Domestic Violence are delivering my testimony of God's love, grace, healing and restoration.
I have the support of a loving family and have been blessed to be the mother of one adult daughter, two school aged teens and grand-mother. I am the daughter of Bishop James D. Wright, Sr and Pastor Margaret Wright, the fourth child of six children.
My volunteerism includes serving as an Advisory Board Member for the North Carolina Juvenile Justice Crime Prevention Council, Chaplain, Advisory Board Member and Peer Group Leader for the Columbus County Teen Court Program and Chaplain for Columbus County Regional Hospital. I have humbly received awards for my service and leadership in the community and will forever be grateful.
I am blessed with spiritual parents, mentors, coaches and counselors. I am a Global School of Ministry Advanced Master Class 2013 alumni, ordained minister and intercessory prayer minister. I serve as the New Jersey State President of the International Minister's Fellowship and Bible Instructor for the New Jersey Chapter of the Global School of Ministry Bible Training and Leadership Development Center, a new chapter I am helping to establish in Hudson County.
As you visit the 30 Days of Healing blog it is my earnest prayer your heart will experience healing, your mind will be changed and your life will be transformed. There is healing for every place that hurts.
There is healing in the life-changing living word. If you believe miracles, signs and wonders will follow!!
Wishing you good health, wellness and success!
|Posted on April 2, 2016 at 1:59 PM||comments (0)|
On Friday April 1, 2016 the Holy Spirit begin speaking to me. This is what He impressed upon my heart and in my spirit. For the next 30 days I am to write a blog focused on “30 Days of Healing”. The month of April is to survivors of child abuse what October is to survivors of cancer and family violence.
While there has been a great awakening on the issue of child sexual abuse the number of cases are
still alarming. April is the month child abuse prevention, awareness education and healing is promoted.
We're grateful for organizations, survivors, businesses, public officials, advocates and churches engaging communities through presentations, workshops, vigils, prayer walks and others gatherings.
We must not NEVER give up the fight to keep our families and communities safe, protect the innocence of our children and deliver a message of hope, help and healing to survivors of child sexual abuse.
Today is Saturday, April 2, 2016 and I am personally inviting you to the “30 Days of Healing” blog. I look forward to sharing words of hope, inspiration, encouragement, healing and restoration.
Chances are you, or someone you know have experienced been exposed to child abuse. Statistics tell us that there are over 39 million adult survivors of child sexual abuse in America today.
Chances are you or someone you know have experienced sexual victimization during the early years of life. Share this blog with family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, educators, youth workers, college students, business leaders, pediatricians, lawyers, doctors, social workers.
Chances are the people you know have also come in contact with individuals or families who may benefit from “30 Days of Healing” blog posts.
Over the next 30 days I will also share excerpts and healing prayers from my book, "Still Scarred, Totally Healed: Opening your heart and mind to God's healing of past hurts".
Do you have a healing story to share? Please leave us a comment. We'd love to connect with you. If you have any questions you may also email me at [email protected]
Wishing you good health, wellness and success!