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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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Bringing Children to Jesus

Posted on February 23, 2013 at 9:24 PM
During my morning devotions I read about parents bringing their little children to Jesus. "One day some parents brought their little children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them" (Luke 18:15). I begin to think about the parents. They obviously knew something about Jesus. I don't believe that these parents would have brought their precious children to Jesus if they had not believed that Jesus loved the little children. I also believe that these parents recognized who Jesus was.
In other words, these parents knew that making an effort to take their children to Jesus could change their lives, their futures, their hopes and their dreams. It could put their lives on the right path and give them a reason for living. Luke said that the parents brought the children so that Jesus could touch and bless them. One touch from Jesus can heal our hearts, change our perspectives and transform our lives.
Jesus is our healer, great physician, redeemer, refuge, protector, provider, deliverer, restorer, counselor and prince of peace.  The earlier we introduce children to Jesus how much better their lives can be. To know that they are loved in a real and personal way by Jesus can make such a world of a difference.
Luke 18:15 says, "But when the disciples saw this, they scolded the parents for bothering Jesus".
Can you imagine that? Jesus loves the children. Yet the disciples treated their parents as if bringing
their children to Him would be an inconvience. Well, Jesus didn't agree with their behavior.
"Then Jesus called for the children and said to the disciples let the children come to me. Don't stop them. For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children", (Luke 18:16).
What Jesus was saying is bring the children here and do nothing to prevent them from coming. And if you want to enter the Kingdom of my Father you would do well to become like these little children. After reading the scriptures I went into my kitchen to make breakfast. While I'm cooking I started thinking about the many ways children are at-risk for not coming to Jesus.
In other words there are things that have happened in the lives of children that have prevented them from coming to know God's love for them. So many children today are falling through the cracks but I believe that Jesus wants us to help the children come to Him. He wants to touch and bless them. We must NOT allow the following circumstances to stop children from coming to Jesus. He is our only hope.
Children are at-risk of falling through the cracks when:
1. There is poverty, low-income and dependency on government assistance.
2. There is violence, anger and uncontrollablle rage modeled in the home.
3. There is a substance abuse problem in the home and no treatment.
4. There is child is a victim of child abuse and neglect.
5. The child has become the parent to the parent instead of being raised as a child.
6. There is no spiritual training, instruction or discipline.
7. There are no values or morals being modeled.
8. The child feels unloved, unwanted, uncared for.
9.The child feels there is no hope for their future.
10.The child has no sense of purpose, direction or meaning for their existence.
11.The parent is physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally abusive.
12.A parent or both parents are incarcerated.
13.The child is made to sell drugs or steal food just to survive.
14.The child is illiterate, not able to read or write.
15.The child has no one who cares about their well-being or shows interest.
16.The child has experienced parental rejection and abandonment.
17.The child is has been experienced the trauma of sexual abuse, molestation or rape.
18.The child is a victim of sexual trafficking.
19.The child has to relocate from shelter to shelter or state to state.
20.The child has know one to talk to or anyone to listen.
21.The child's sexuality has been tainted by through sexual exploitation.
22. The child's identity has been stolen and they don't know who they are.
23. The child's innocence has been stolen.
24. The child lives in a community plagued by crimes, gun violence and drugs.
25.The child has joined a gang to experience a sense of belonging.
26. The youth ages out of foster without proper resources, guidance, support system in place.
27.The child have never met their father.
28. The child is allowed to do drugs with their parents or other relatives.
29. The child has been exposed to pornography.
30. The child is trying to fill the hole in their hearts with multiple sex partners.
31. The child is living in the home with a mentally ill parent.
32. The child becomes pregnant as a student.
33. The child has contracted HIV/AIDS and hasn't shared with anyone.
34. The child is involved with the Juvenile Justice System.
35. The youth has or is at-risk of dropping out of school.
36. The child runs away from home due to problems in the home.
37. The child is forced into prostitution and feels there is no way out.
Regardless of the circumstances JESUS loves the children. We must help the children get to Jesus by any means necessary so that He can touch them with His love and grace. So that He can heal them.

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