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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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Footsteps Divinely Ordered

Posted on December 3, 2013 at 12:56 PM
Few weeks ago driving down the highway I looked in my rear view mirror and noticed "flashing lights". 
In the words of  Madea, " it was the po-po" or in other words a state trooper.

I pulled over went through the procedures and was given a ticket. It wasn't a speeding ticket.  My car tags were expired. Car inspection was overdue. My mistake. So, after issuing the ticket the officer informed me that once I've taken care of the matter I should submit proof prior to my court date.

Though I took the car for inspection and received my updated registration card I forgot to submit proof. Bad deal. So around 7:30 am this morning the light bulb comes on. I realized today was my court date that wasn't supposed to happen. So, now I'm like, "wow". I don't want to spend my whole day or half of my morning in court. My first thought was to see if I could submit proof  8: 30 am. But that would not have worked because files were more than likely in the court room the night before. Now what?

It's settled in my heart and mind I'm going to court. However, as I was getting ready I asked God to give me favor. I had already written out my "to-do" list for the day but this was something that had to be taken care of.  So I go to court and the sheriff directs me to a line. Court had not officially started. When it was my turn to "check-in" I submitted proof that my registration had been renewed. As a result, I didn't have to sit in court at all. I thanked the person and exited the building. Favor received.

Not only was I able to complete the items on my to-do list, but I believe my steps were divinely ordered. 
I was at the right place at the right time. Sometimes we will see someone we didn't plan on seeing that day. Perhaps someone we've been meaning to contact but didn't get a chance to call or someone who was just on our mind. Nothing happens by chance. There are no coincidences. When your steps are divinely ordered there are no chance meetings. 

While a few weeks I didn't intend on going to court today, my day was already planned. I met every person I was divinely scheduled to meet. I did everything I needed to do today. So even when your day seems to be "interrupted" there is always a  reason. You might not know "why" at the very moment you realize the change, but be on the look out. Keep an open mind. Leave room for adjustments.

Try to avoid getting upset. Just flow with it. And sooner or later you will understand "why" things didn't go exactly the way that you planned. We can plan our days and it's good to do so. Just remember that there are also divine appointments. When you're walking in your divine purpose, there will definitely be divine appointments. People you need to meet, places you need to go and things you need to see.

Have a great day!

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