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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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Crossroad C.A.R.E. Outreach Center

Posted on December 8, 2013 at 8:15 PM
I was encouraged this morning reading Dr. Charles Stanley In Touch Devotional for Monday, December 9th. Though today is December 8th the message resonated with me and I gladly received it. 

"When Things Seem Impossible" was the title. In the devotional Dr. Stanley wrote about a time when his church was preparing to purchase some very costly property. Like many churches, they didn't want to go into debt. At that time they didn't have all the they money needed. Actually, they had less than half.

During one of the services a young couple who were struggling and expecting a baby approached 
Dr. Stanley offering the husband's wedding band. They insisted that he use to help toward the payment for the new property. When I read this I could have only imagined how Dr. Stanley felt. 

This couple is a testament to the fact that when your heart is being healed and your life is being changed and transformed  you want to be a blessing so that others can also be blessed.

On a personal level in 2004 I remember feeling the same way. One Sunday on the way home from service I said to my then teenage daughter, "Dr. Ireland preached so powerful today that he make me want to give all my money to the church". At that time I was going through a very dark season. I don't know what I would have done without the ministry of Dr. David Ireland and Christ Church family. I loved my church. When you want to get to church early and don't want to leave after the benediction has been given that speaks volumes. I'll never forget what Christ Church meant to my family and countless others. 

During the second service Dr. Stanley shared this story about what this young couple wanted to do. The congregation was so moved that they started making their way down the aisle to sow into the building project. People were giving boats, houses, jewelry, cars. As a result over two million dollars was raised in one day. There is a Scripture in the bible that speaks to this. Moses was commanded to build a temple. The people had given so much that the leaders told the people not to bring anymore gifts.

This is truly an amazing story. The hand of God is all over this. When things seem impossible with man nothing is impossible with God. Remember that when the Father places a DREAM on your heart, he'll provide. Sometimes we don't see "how" we're going to do what He's calling us to do. But we have to trust Him. He has a plan and He's going to fulfill every promise. He doesn't always give us the bigger picture. He wants us to trust Him with what he's already shown us and by faith keep moving forward.

This story resonated with me because of where we're headed. We're excited about our new location for Crossroad C.A.R.E. Outreach Center a community-based outreach targeting at-risk youth and low-income, disadvantaged individuals and families. Through the center we will provide after-school programs, mentoring program for female  / male students, food pantry, assistance and home repairs for elderly citizens, fatherhood initiatives, dress for success clothes closet and employment training and work opportunities for displaced, unemployed women. We're passionate about promoting holistic healing and wholeness. We will also host a healing school focused on the whole person. Step-by-step classes helping people to experience inner healing for past hurts and position themselves for success. 

Like Dr. Charles Stanley we have faith for the support of Crossroad C.A.R.E. Outreach Center. 
We're trusting that every need will be supplied. And every impossible situation will be overcome. Little can become much when you place it in the Master's hand. Today, we place Crossroad C.A.R.E. Outreach Center in His hands. Trusting that as we ask, seek and knock doors will be opened and resources will be provided. In 2104 we look forward to touching hearts and showing our community we care. 

Be blessed!

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