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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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Find Ms.RIGHT For You!

Posted on July 2, 2015 at 7:13 PM
Hello Friends,

If you've ever seen a young lady on the street and thought, "Wow I'd really like to talk to her" but you didn't follow through or you didn't go up and introduce yourself you may have had a few of the normal
"what would have, could have or should have" thoughts racing through your head.

If you've ever found yourself stopped short when it comes to relationships or approaching a woman you find interesting OR  if you're ever had the courage to go up and introduce yourself and it just didn't work out perhaps I can help.  See, when it comes to dating or approaching women like everything else in life there is a right way and a way that SEEMS right, yet it doesn't bring results we truly desire. At that point we end up settling. 

But there is hope so don't give up. You can find relationship success you're looking for. You can become the kind of man that can naturally a woman. You can be genuine and have a interesting conversation. You can feel confident and comfortable in your approach. You can invite her out on a date. 

And ultimately you CAN have the kind of  low-stress and fulfilling relationship with the kind of woman you REALLY want that could potentially lead to MARRIAGE!!! 

HOW do I know? Men are finding the WOMAN of their DREAMS every single day. The LOVE you're looking for is also waiting for you. Have you ever heard of, "When a man finds a WIFE?" There is a WOMAN being prepared right NOW perhaps in another town, city, state to become your wife. She could be right in your MIDST but you just didn't know it. 

In order to help I've decided to have personal one-on-one sessions with a few of my blog readers over the next couple of weeks. We probably won't be able to work with everybody, but the sooner you request your session the more likely you are to be scheduled. 

This coaching session is called "Improve Your Confidence with Women Coaching Session". During the "Improve Your Confidence with Women Coaching Session" we will work together to....

  • Create a crystal clear VISION for the kind of woman you's like to have in your life and the kind of relationship you'd like to have with her.
  • We'll uncover any hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success in relationships.
  • You'll leave the session renewed, re-energized and inspired to take consistent action in your relationships and love life so that you can finally have the success you've always wanted.

To get your "Improve Your Confidence With Women Coaching Session" today, simply send an email and and please ANSWER the following questions:

1. How long have you been single?

2. Have you ever been married? 

3. On a scale of 0 to 10 how important is getting this area of life in alignment with other areas?

4.. What do you see as your biggest challenge with women and dating?

5. What has been greatest relationship success to date?

6. When would be the BEST time to have your 30- Minute session?

Send your reply to [email protected]

Be sure to include your name and number so we can send you a text of give you a call and get you scheduled for this special 30-minute, "Improve Your Confidence with Women Coaching Session" today. 

We're excited and hope to hear from you soon!

To Your  Success,

The Crossroad Team

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