Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.
Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402
Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma
Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.
Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems.
1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.
2. Witnessing a mother being abused.
3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.
4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.
5. A family member who is in prison.
6. Parental separation or divorce.
7. Physical or emotional neglect.
8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.
9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.
10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.
11. Involvement with the foster care system.
12. Losing a family member due to deportation.
13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.
14.Living in a war zone.
15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.
If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs.
The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.
The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.
While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse.
It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin.
Wishing you health and wellness,
Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International
NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor
School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution
Email: [email protected]
|Posted on May 19, 2020 at 4:06 PM|
Saturday, May 16, 2020 we attended a virtual graduation for Felician University class of 2020. We were excited to view this event because my nephew, Brandon Wright, was part of the graduating class of 2020. Although it was VIRTUAL due to the COVID-19 Pandemic we could not have been more EXCITED.
Brandon earned his BA degree in Business Administration. He is the son of one of my beloved sister's Carmella A. Wright (October 15, 1968 - August 23, 2011) and grandson of my parents, Bishop James D. Wright, Sr and Pastor Margaret A. Wright. He is also the dearly loved brother of Ms. Ebony Wright. Brandon also has aunts (Delphine, Glinda, Wenda) an uncle (James D. Wright, Jr) cousins, friends and extended friends who are also very proud of this milestone and new beginning in his life.
While everyone loves and supports Brandon, his greatest cheerleader, mentor, encouragement has been his beloved sister, Ebony, who just like her mother, is passionate about children.
Ebony is an early childhood professional. She is dedicated, creative, compassionate, loving and nurturing. She loves her job and the children she teaches loves Ms.Ebony too! Prior to the death of her mother, Ebony served well as a caregiver to both her mom and brother Brandon.
Ebony and Brandon has been one of the closest sibling TEAMS I've ever met. They love and respect each other and hold each other accountable. Their hard work, discipline, courage, tenacity wasn't easy. Nothing is ever achieved without any life adversity, loss, setbacks and challenges.
"I just want to add that before my mom died, she said, 'Make sure my (Tank) "Brandon" is okay and she gave me all the cards and documents", said Ebony. "I wrote her a letter and put it in her hand in her casket and said, 'Mommy, I will make sure your baby is fine. We will be alright. Rest now".
It wasn't easy writing this blog. I miss my sister dearly. One thing I know for sure is with faith, family, and a few good friends hurts can heal and setbacks can become stepping stones. Virtual graduation commencement May 16, 2020 was a special day of celebration, memory and destiny.
Brandon Wright, was born June 22, 1998 and raised by a single mother who loved him very much.
Brandon attended Macedonia Redeemed Pentecostal Church, under the leadership of his grand-parents.
After graduating from Public School #41 in Jersey City, NJ he attended University Academy Charter High School. After graduating in 2016 he attended Felician University, a private Catholic university preparing today's students to become 21st century leaders today and tomorrow.
Brandon was very active on campus. He served as president of EOF, young entrepreneurs club, a residence assistant and a mentor. Some of his favorite subjects were marketing, business management, psychology, criminal justice, business ethics, and sports management.
When asked about what he loved most he said, "What I loved most about the college is the diversity, different cultures, backgrounds and ethnicities". His favorite place to eat was called Boom Boom chicken, a Korean Restaurant located approximately five minutes away from campus. "Their chicken with garlic soy sauce was immaculate", added Brandon.
Interviewing Brandon for this blog gave me an opportunity to learn more about my nephew. I've always been passionate about education and helping students discover their potential and fulfill their purpose. It was a blessing learning about some of his future aspirations, dreams and goals.
"My future goal is to have multiple businesses 100% owned by me and create a fortune 500 company with my surname. I want to give back to every school I went to, start a scholarship fund for minority students who want to further their education and provide a better and consistent stable life for my family". WOW!!! WOW!!!! Dreams do become reality when we write a vision and make it plain.
We're happy to announce that Brandon Wright has been selected to be the recipient of the Crossroad Women and Family Services Aspire to College Class of 2020 Achievement Award. Congratulations Brandon!
If you and your family, business, organization, church or ministry would like to send a gift of any size
to Brandon Wright and Ebony Wright you can mail your gift to Crossroad Women and Family Services, Aspire to College Program, Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402.
You can also Cash App your gift to ($CWFS) Crossroad Women and Family Services.
If you have any questions or comments please email [email protected]
Please stay tuned for our next blog- where Brandon will give a special message to family, friends, mentors and professors. Thank you taking time to share in this special occasion.
With Hearts of Gratitude,
Patrina Wright-Torres, Executive Director
Reyes Torres, Jr., Men's Outreach
Crossroad Women and Family Services