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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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Where healing waters flow

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 4:21 PM
Have you ever used the expression, "When it rains it pours?". 

People are most likely to say these words when it seems that it's one thing after the other. The car breaks down. The job lays you off.  You get a phone call about the passing of a loved one. Your computer crashes right in the middle of a major project that's due with a few days. You discover your gut feelings were right, your mate was being unfaithful. You didn't get the promotion you hoped for....

I'm sure that you can add a few things to this list because there are times in life when the storms of life are raging. Things can seem so cloudy that you don't think you'll ever see the break of day. 

Yet, no matter how dark things get in our lives there is always something we can be grateful for. Even on really tough days when you need to call up a friend and vent you realize that things could have been worse.  But since you're still breathing you can make it through the rough places if you go through... Don't get stuck in the darkness of your circumstances. Every trial has an expiration date..

You might go through deep waters but you're not going to drown. Everything around you may be falling apart and the heat is turned up so high that you're convinced all that will be left are the ashes.

Despite how hot your trial or challenge is you can come out of the fire without smelling like smoke. Some things may burn in the fire but when the smoke clears you're still going to be standing...

This morning I found myself nearly in tears. Not because something was wrong, but everything is right. What do I mean by that? Because it is well with my soul despite what I go through in life the greatest testimony I can have is that "it is well with my soul". If I've come out of the fire before, I'm coming out again.  The storms of life will come. Dreams will get shattered. People you depended on sometimes can turn their backs. Yet, my soul is anchored on a firm foundation. 

I look to the hills because I know where my help comes from. While you or I may reach out and help someone else our strength comes from our Creator.  Another reason I found myself in tears this morning is simply because I wanted to worship. In fact, I love to worship. It's what I do despite that I'm going through. Why? Because when we worship in the midst of the pain healing comes. When we worship in the midst of the battle, we can win the war. When we worship even when there's silence, God is always working behind the scenes.

The words of the worship song touched me so deeply this morning that all I could do was go there.
Have you ever been thirsty? I mean really, really thirsty and nothing seemed to quench your thirst. Soda didn't do it. Milk didn't hit the spot and neither did orange juice. Yet, the moment you begin to drank a glass of water you found that you couldn't get enough. The water was the very thing your body was thirty for. 

Lately, I've been thirsty. Not for natural spring water but spiritual water. My thirst has grown much deeper and the source of my fulfillment can only come from one source. Just like the woman at the well I've tasted this water time and time again. Nothing else satisfies my thirst but this living water. It's good for the whole man. It has the power to quench spiritual thirst and meet needs we may not know we have.

Every morning, I'm excited to get more of this living water during my daily devotion. As I read my bible and spend time in prayer something is happening on the inside. There are times I don't want to stop drinking this living water because it doing exceedingly more than I could imagine. 

Not only is spiritual water good for the soul (mind, will and emotions) it's the only kind of water that can quench the thirst of the spirit and allow us to have a living and loving relationship with the giver of true life. The next time it seems that life is pouring out things you didn't sign up for, find yourself a quiet place. 
And drink deeply of the living water where healing flows and the well will never run dry.

Rev. Patrina Wright

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