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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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Domestic Violence Only Delayed Your Destiny

Posted on July 17, 2015 at 4:59 PM
The following post was taken from Chapter #8 in my book, "The Exodus Breaking Cycles and Changing Lives: Repositioning Your Soul to THRIVE After Domestic Violence'. I hope that you enjoy!
Domestic Violence Only Delayed Your Destiny
I believe that you are reading this book because you were destined to read it. How you received a copy really isn't the issue. Before you were born God knew you. He also knew that you would be at this particular place and time in your life. Our days are number and what's going to take place in our lives
has already taken place in the spiritual realm. Everyday that we awaken we walk in that manifestation.
You have the power of choice on your side. The only thing that can stop your divine destiny is you.
You must be careful about who you allow in your life. Your life is sacred. Everyone doesn't belong in your space. Be mindful of what you are connected to as well as who you are connected with. You behold what you become.
God is calling you to a different place and time. It's time to prepare now for what has already been planned for you. You are in transition. Something is always happening. Domestic violence causes all trypes of losses. Although loss creates setbacks one of the greatest life lessons that you will ever learn about setbacks is that a temporary setback can be a set-up for a PERMANENT comeback.
It's all in how you look at it. Most often when we experience a setback we have a pity-party. I'm not suggesting that you become numb or live in denial.  Do what you have to do in your process but at the same time allow yourself to see things from another perspective.
If truth be told a setback can help you realize where you went wrong. During a setback it's important to take time to reflect, reassess and strategize. You see a setback is an opportunity to get off the losing team and join the winning team. A setback helps you to stop the madness and make a U-turn. It can cause you to get off the roller coaster ride and do the right things for the right reasons this time around.
Change your perspective about your setback. The Bible says that God will cause all things to work out for you. If you refuse to be stuck in your yesterday your tomorrow will be a better day. You really can say hello to your tomorrow today. But you must choose to make a comeback. You have to have a bounce back spirit.
I'm not suggesting that everything will immediately fall into place. Bouncing back takes time. But if you have the right mindset while you're making a comeback you won't fall apart when something doesn't work out the way you think it should. If you do just get back up and dust yourself off again. I just want you to understand that making a comeback is a process so that you won't ABORT the process.
Choose to learn from your setbacks. What can you learn? You can learn about growth and development. You can learn when it's time for a change. You can learn how to deal with the root causes of your past. You can learn how to heal. You can learn how to begin again. You can learn how to forgive. You can learn how to make everyday count. You can learn how to love your children.
You can learn how to love yourself. You can learn how to love God. You can learn how to pray for your enemies. You can learn how to plan. You can learn how to ask for what you need. You can lean that you never want to stop learning because learning causes growth. Anything that's not growing is dying. You can learn how to take responsibility. You can learn how to move forward.
You can learn how to thrive. You can learn how to encourage yourself. You can learn how to silence those voices of failure in your head. You can learn how to read the Word of God. How to seek out the truth, how to reject lies, how to live again, how to laugh again, how to love again, how to dream again. You can learn how to be whole again. You can learn that it was only a delay.
Everything that you need to make it through this trial is lying dormant within you waiting to be birthed.
It takes certain kinds of trials to bring forth that which was place in us by Almighty God. He knows what it's going to take to get you where you need to be.
We'd love to hear from you. Did this post resonate with you? Leave a comment, thought or simply say hello. Do you know someone who has experienced intimate partner violence? Invite them to visit this website. Share this blog with your friend, relative, co-worker, or neighbors. Spread the word.
Until Next Time,
Remain Blessed!

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