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Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma
Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.
Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems.
1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.
2. Witnessing a mother being abused.
3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.
4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.
5. A family member who is in prison.
6. Parental separation or divorce.
7. Physical or emotional neglect.
8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.
9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.
10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.
11. Involvement with the foster care system.
12. Losing a family member due to deportation.
13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.
14.Living in a war zone.
15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.
If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs.
The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.
The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.
While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse.
It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin.
Wishing you health and wellness,
Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International
NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor
School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution
Email: [email protected]
|Posted on July 6, 2017 at 7:59 AM|
Women have been speaking up and standing against the evil of child abuse, neglect and cruelty, violence, oppression, sexual assault and rape. Women have been standing in the gap for daughters and sons, nieces and nephews. They've help raise grand-children, hurting and lonely children, neighborhood children and children of those for which they worked. Women have served as spiritual mothers, mentors and mid-wives. The work isn't easy. Story after story. Case after case.
The tears, fears, sorrow and grief becomes overwhelming. When a person is paralyzed by fear and hurting from deep wounds, a broken spirit and clinical depression they can become too weak to pray. When you know someone is in trouble you don't just look the other way. You stand in the gap. You pray and you never stop praying for their hurts, their wounds, shattered dreams and broken promises.
Standing against evil, injustice and oppression in order to fight for mercy, compassion, justice, help and healing, for the vulnerable and the voiceless takes conviction, courage and commitment. Character is developed in the hard places. The making of a man happens through life tests, trials and setbacks.
In times of hardship and overwhelming challenges something in you is birthed and it's built to last.
Do you when you stand up for what's right when others sit down? Do you speak up, when others ignore, excuse or justify wrong and remain silent? Do you give when others manipulate and take?
Perhaps you are one of the few good men still fighting the good fight of faith. When you stand for something you stand out and you'll never be forgotten.
There is still room for a few good men. Men willing to stand in the gap as mentors, coaches, supporters and iron sharpening iron. Men willing to speak up and speak out, "Not on my watch". Men willing to repair the walls and protect the gates. Men who are sons, fathers, husbands, uncles, grand-fathers and step-fathers are wanted in this hour. There are mothers, daughters, sisters, nieces, aunts, grand-mothers who desperately need you to lift your voice and raise your hands to pray and work...
Perhaps you know one or some of these women. Perhaps you of her silent years of heartbreak. As quiet as it's kept she was paralyzed by fear, anxiety and depression, mental illness, control and manipulation, shame, guilt and a sense of loyalty. She wondered what people would say or if she sought to protect herself and the children. Would they believe her? Would she be treated harshly or criticized for saying such nonsense?
Yes, things have gotten better in society, but evil and oppression hasn't stopped. Today, single women with children are left to navigate life alone. Many have been abandoned, betrayed, lied on, laughed at, mocked, displaced, separated and divorced just to save their lives.
Historically women have been criticized, judged and blamed by people who felt they should stay. Not realizing that her struggle isn't over. Common experiences include chronic homelessness, unemployment and poverty, low self esteem, stressed induced sickness, family court battles. The emotional, mental, financial, social and educational impact this has on the children is devastating, discouraging and depressing.
Daily girls and women are being abused, raped, prostituted, trafficked, beaten, murdered, kidnapped, tortured and bullied. Will you be one of the few good men to stand in the gap for girls and women as if they were your own daughters, mothers and sisters. One make CAN make a difference. Will you be the one?
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